All the emotions are being generated by clinging to a false self, by trying to protect a false identity. The way out is to pay close attention and notice when the contraction would come up. This way you can start seeing things in a helpful perspective. And you will see that every emotion relates to an identity attachment. This is a journey of emptying the mind, for it requires questioning every value that you hold. Not one can be kept hidden, or it will obscure your learning. Practicing this will lead towards the experience of consistent joy and peace of mind.
What is the purpose of marriage? Go beyond anything you value in this world or in another person. You learning curriculum is very specific and may include practicing forgiveness through marriage. Your only purpose here is to know yourself as the Son of God, and the Spirit will use everything in form for this purpose; even marriage.
As you begin working with the ideas of “A Course in Miracles,” fear may arise. It is only ego-thinking that causes upset. To attain a state of sustained happiness, you must free the mind of ego-thinking and become reliant only on Spirit.
One of the early ACIM lessons is, ‘I have invented the world I see.’ W-32. Everything in this linear world is a projection from the ego. When we perceive murder or victimhood, it is an attack thought in the mind, projected out onto the world. Listening and following the Spirit is the way to transforming the wrong-minded thinking into right-minded thinking. There is one problem, and one solution!
The three most important aspects of holy relationship are: undefined, guided, and collaborative. Until you meet the conditions of those three things, there will be misuse of the body and with that come guilt, fear, doubt, and shame.